I received a beautiful outpouring of feedback on my last post about Noah’s birth. Phone calls, emails, facebook messages.. just to name a few so I thought I would write some answers to a few of the common questions I received.
The number one question…
Who is the doctor/what hospital were you at; and why didn’t you blast their name all over your post?
A: I will be honest, I thought long and hard about if I should put the identifying information in the post as to whom is responsible for what happened. In the end I decided it really didn’t matter. This could have happened to anyone in any hospital. As a professional, I would be heart broken if I made a mistake and someone blasted me all over the Internet. I felt a more appropriate way of writing the post was to go at it from a perspective of sharing what happened so that other women would educate themselves about labor and delivery and empower themselves so that their experience is better. I believe that speaking directly to the person with whom I may have conflict is more appropriate.
Q: Are you going to sue?? You should sue!!
A: Long story short…no. I am not going to sue. I’m pretty sure the Bible is not too hip on suing others so I’m not going that direction. Suing in my opinion, for this situation would only be revenge seeking. Revenge does nothing to help heal my heart, it does not create change in others nor does it does not help other women. If I may be so vulgar… I will simply say that revenge is a filthy whore, while slightly seductive and enticing- it DOES NOT make you feel any better and does not do anybody good.
Q: Are you going to have another baby down the road?
A: The jury is still out on this one. Immediately following the delivery I wanted my tubes tied…immediately! However, My obgyn …who is NOT the one who was on call when I delivered and was not responsible for the events of that day(s) made a point to tell me he would not do that procedure for at least one year because he knew I was likely making that decision for the wrong reason. He said, “You want it done because of what happened- not because you don’t want any other children.” He’s right.
So, we will see. I think 4 months post delivery is still not enough time for me to make that decision but I will say that I am working on being more open minded about it. Josh is so supportive and wonderfully patient with me re: this issue. Some people commented that this might cause marital conflict or problems between Josh and I. That has certainly not been the case. We have learned, and are continuing to learn to cling to each other in times of difficulty instead of taking out frustrations on one another.
Thanks again for your questions and comments! The post about Noah’s birth ended up having over 700 readers. I was stunned!
